August 6, 2007

• Based on your experience, can men and women ever just be friends?

  Well, to start out I will say that my husband is my best friend, but
  that isnt what I believe the question to be asking. I think the
  question is talking about a male and female who are not married being
  friends.

  Is the trend toward intimate friendships between single men and women a good thing? I don’t think it is. I’m not a big fan of opposite-sex buddies. Intimate
  friendships between men and
  women almost always produce confusion and frustration for at least one
  of the parties involved. Close friendships tend to
  involve much time talking and hanging out one-on-one. They tend to
  involve a deep knowledge of the other person’s hopes, desires, wishes,
  dreams and
  personality. They tend to involve the sharing of many aspects of each
  person’s daily lives and routines. In other words, they tend to involve
  much of the  of intimacy and companionship involved in and meant
  for marriage.

  Back when both sex before marriage and close
  male-female friendships were much less accepted and less common in
  society, men and women moved toward marriage earlier
  in life. Historically, opposite-sex relationships
  have been reserved for sguy and girls intent on marriage, or at the
  very least some kind of romantic pursuit. I can’t think of
  a single Scriptural example of male and female pals. Male/female
  relationships in Scripture led to either marriage or (sin) extra-marital sex.
  Until fairly recently in the West, and up to the present in many other
  cultures, the roles of women have been severely restricted by the idea
  that if men and women who are not married to one another are thrown
  into situations of social contact illicit sexual relations are the
  predictable outcome. Modern Western culture has not produced
  counterevidence to that view, instead it has for the most part chosen endorse unbiblical sexual practices.
  Jesus did not have “close friends” that were women the way men and
  women do now. It would have been totally improper for Him to have been
  alone with a woman He wasnt married to unless she was his relative.
  Jewish custom would not have allowed it.
  Now days men and women think they can be best friends and spend days and days alone together. It is totally improper.

     

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