Month: January 2010

  • How to Help in Haiti

    My Grandpa Harold Herr is in Haiti. He was outside his house when the quake hit. He is ok. There are many who are not ok. Here are some legitimate ways you an help……

    InterAction.org has compiled a list of organizations that are responding to the situation in Haiti, including UNICEF, Catholic Relief Services, Lutheran World Relief and many others. Find more information at InterAction.org.

    You can make donations at Food For The Poor’s Web site.

    The U.S. State Department suggested making donations by text message. If you text HAITI to 90999, a $10 donation to the Red Cross will be charged to your cell phone.You can also make Red Cross donations online.

    Other options:
    Christian Aid Ministries
    Mercy Corps Donations
    United Methodist Committee On Relief
    Salvation Army

  • Nancy Ajram

    Nancy Ajram is a wonderful singer

  • What is Borderline Personality Dissorder?


    Every now and then I like to do informative posts. I thought I would do one on a little talked about Disorder…..Borderline Personality Disorder.

    Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a serious and often life-threatening disorder that is characterized by severe emotional pain and difficulties managing emotions. The problems associated with BPD include impulsivity (including suicidality and self-harm), severe negative emotion such as anger and/or shame, chaotic relationships, an extreme fear of abandonment, and accompanying difficulties maintaining a stable and accepting sense of self

    Completed suicide occurs in 8%-10% of individuals with this disorder, and self-mutilative acts (e.g., cutting or burning) and suicide threats and attempts are very common. Recurrent job losses, interrupted education, and broken marriages are common.

    Very stressful or chaotic childhoods are commonly reported (e.g., physical and sexual abuse, neglect, hostile conflict, and early parental loss or separation). Mood disorders, Substance-Related Disorders, Eating Disorders (usually Bulimia), Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder, and other Personality Disorders frequently co-occur with this disorder.

    Individuals with BPD can be very sensitive to the way others treat them, reacting strongly to perceived criticism or hurtfulness. Their feelings about others often shift from positive to negative, generally after a disappointment or perceived threat of losing someone. Self-image can also change rapidly from extremely positive to extremely negative. Impulsive behaviors are common, including alcohol or drug abuse, unsafe sex, gambling and recklessness in general.

    Individuals with BPD are at high risk of developing other psychological disorders such as anxiety and depression. Other symptoms of BPD, such as dissociation, are frequently linked to severely traumatic childhood experiences, which some put forth as one of the many root causes of the borderline personality.

    The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders fourth edition, DSM IV-TR, a widely used manual for diagnosing mental disorders, defines borderline personality disorder (in Axis II Cluster B) as:

    A pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image and affects, as well as marked impulsivity, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:

           1. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. Note: Do not include suicidal or self-injuring behavior covered in Criterion 5
           2. A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation.
           3. Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self.
           4. Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., promiscuous sex, eating disorders, binge eating, substance abuse, reckless driving). Note: Do not include suicidal or self-injuring behavior covered in Criterion 5
           5. Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, threats or self-injuring behavior such as cutting, interfering with the healing of scars (excoriation) or picking at oneself.
           6. Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).
           7. Chronic feelings of emptiness
           8. Inappropriate anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights).
           9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation, delusions or severe dissociative symptoms

    It is a requirement of DSM-IV that a diagnosis of any specific personality disorder also satisfies a set of general personality disorder criteria.

    When comparing individuals diagnosed with BPD to those diagnosed with other personality disorders, the former showed a higher rate of also meeting criteria for:
    anxiety disorders
    mood disorders (including clinical depression and bipolar disorder)
    eating disorders (including anorexia nervosa and bulimia)
    dissociative disorders

    Numerous studies have shown a strong correlation between child abuse, especially child sexual abuse, and development of BPD. Many individuals with BPD report to have had a history of abuse and neglect as young children. They were also much more likely to report having caregivers (of both genders) deny the validity of their thoughts and feelings.

    So there is some information on BPD

  • White Girl

    I want to try to watch the movie White Girl when I get the chance. It is supposed to be a really good movie.

    It was a 2008 made for TV movie.

    Debbie lives a poor lifestyle in Britain along with her spouse, and three children, two girls and a boy. The neighborhood is predominantly Islamic and there is a Mosque within a stone’s throw of their residence. Foul-mouthed, she finds herself being abused by her spouse, often publicly, and ends up neglecting her children. She, as well as her spouse, are alarmed and shaken when they find out her eldest, Leah, has accepted Islam as her Faith, and when confronted, decides to move out to live with a neighboring Muslim family. Watch what impact this action has on Debbie, the rest of her family, as well as their neighbors.

    If you want to watch it it is on youtube in 9 parts http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dbYADp56lDc

    Here is what one person had to say about it

  • Grandma and flowers

    (Originally posted Monday evening…Timestamped so everyone can see it. Have a wonderful day everyone)

    Grandma got some beautiful flowers today that she loves. Here are two pictures of her and the flowers

  • Not so ordinary day

    Today is a not so ordinary day. We are waiting the return of Mama (My grandmother). She is going to be coming home today.



    The Children are excited that she is coming home!

  • Job Search Questions

    Ok…I have applied at all the places I am qualified to work at in the past 6 months.

    There are no more places to apply. I still do not have a job. Do I go back and reapply at all the places where 3 months have passed since I applied at?


    What would you do?

  • Where we are headed next Sunday

    This Sunday we went to a Assembly of God. There were some good points and some not so good points. We will not be making that a place for us to regularly attend.

    So where are we going to next week?

    Next week we will be attending a Brethren In Christ Church. Anyone attend one or used to attend one?

  • A quick note on the AOG church we went to this morning

    Here is a quick recap on the service at the church. We went to the 8am service (I love early)

    They sang praise and worship songs then had communion then offering and then announcements and then the sermon.
     
    The sermon was about trusting in the Lord to provide our needs and trusting in Him when it looks like we need a miracle. That He wants to take care of us and wants what is best for us.
     
    The Church is doing a Daniel fast for the month of January.
     
    The Theme was Keep a journal of all the blessings and miracles God brings into your life.  We are believing God to do miracles in our families, our spiritual lives, our relationships, our bodies, our finances, our community and our world.
     
    The scripture was Exodus 14 and 15
     
    Expecting miracles and Praising God for those miracles
     
    The Bible is filled with examples of God’s miracles in both the Old and New Testaments.  Everyone loves to see and hear about miracles, but few want to be in the place where they need one.  It would have been awesome to see God part the Red Sea, but would we want to have Pharaoh and his army chasing us? 
    Even when your back is against the wall and all you have is God, you have all that you need!  Ephesians 3:20 tells us that He will do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or even think.  So start believing and praying for miracles!

    My husband and I still need to sit down and talk about our thoughts and feelings about the church. I may talk about that later.