January 15, 2009
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Prayer request
That I don’t go knock heads together at my sons school (Not like I would…that is totally not me) I am just so so so so mad right now. They are making me so mad.
He isn;t writing neat enough…he is doing stuff too fast….etc etc etc
Hello…they know he is a preemie….they know he is the youngest in his class…they know things come harder for him then other children.
I AM MAD!!!!!
They kept telling not to worry not to worry and now TODAY they want to send an email to me complaining about the same things I have been talking about since the beginning of the year when he started first grade!!!!
I am so mad I am crying.
Comments (31)
Oh honey!! I’m so sorry!! I’m about to head out, but email me if you need to vent.
@Papillon_Mom - I just don’t know what to do
I pray peace and wisdom over you, I pray he gives you the words to say and how to say them. I pray you always keep in mind of your Christian walk and to show others no matter how mad they make you, How a real Christian acts. I pray God give you the guidence you need with your son. And I pray that God fully heals your son of any mental issues he may have. Make him the smartest one in the class to show them the Glory of the lord. I Jesus name I pray Amen!
You got it lady. Take some time to cool off before you do anything. Schools can be pretty maddening. Take a few deep breaths
hug.
Praying.
Praying for the situation! My son has LD and now I homeschool him.. It has made a difference! ~ Jackie
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that is what urks me about schooling. this pressure to conform. every child is so very very different!! my son is 8 and just started reading and writing more than a few words this year. He is smart a s whip, but i know in school they’d see him as behind. we tried public kindergarten and I couldn’t take the pressure they laid on the kids at 5 yrs old!! so we homeschool now (well that and for other religious reasons too)
take some time to cool off and then deal with it.
i’m so sorry you’re dealing with this.but i agree w/ what hennypenne said the public schools try to conform the kids into one lump sum.when you deal with then remind them you have already pointed out these concerns and were told not to worry about it.then it’s on their shoulders.
((Kristen)) BTDT as you well know! Document EVERYTHING. Copy notes,etc..so that when they start complaining you have proof that you had already told them that first. Take a deep breathe, call for a meeting, and the go in and ask them precisely what the problem is and what they intend to do to help him. If he is LD, then he needs an IEP and if he already has that, then they need to change it to help him and then do it. It is their problem so to speak, not yours….yours is to make sure they come up with a solution and then make sure they do it…
Like was mentioned…..homeschool works too..LOL!!
(((((((HUGS))))))))) ~ I stand in agreement with Chris’ prayer….praying for you!
@elainef - Thanks Elaine….Isn’t this soo much fun (NOT). I know you understand what I am going through and have probably had to go through worse then I ever will have to.
@elainef - This is the truth. I had to do this very thing for my oldest daughter.
@Kristenmomof3 - My wife was just like you Kristen…she was ready to roar like a lion through the school halls in frustration. My daughter’s IEP was not being evaluated regularly and then they claimed that she had not met any of the goals. My wife worked with our daughter lots on all of the goals except for the “writing her name” since our daughter was younger than 4 and they expected all 4 year olds to print their names??? Needless to say I stepped in and met with all faculty and administrators involved with my daughter. They helped her overcome her problems with not speaking. We are grateful for the resources they equipped my wife to make a breakthrough to our child. But the day came when I politiely and firmly told the school in a meeting that the IEP goals were completed. They acknowledged that many of them were done at the meeting and that the document needed to be updated. I then said that my wife continued her reading program with our daughter during the summer when school was out and my daughter’s sopeech and comprehension grew exponentially in those two months. Based upon her progress at home I told them thanks and pulled my daughter out of school to be homeschooled.
Get on your knees if you haven’t and pray. Thank Him for your wonderful children. Thank Him for His wisdom and ask for Him to give You insight into the roots of this matter. Barry and you need to pray together about this matter too. Go over all the facts. Allow the hea dof your home to majke the final decision. Be blessed in the divine order of HaShem.
@Kristenmomof3 - Oh…and message Lamb if you need anything else…an ear to hear and to relay our experiences…she can contact you by phone if that helps. Shalom.
@koldodi - thanks….I called the school and am waiting to hear back from the administrator.
@Made2sing4Jesus - yep, well, the school didn’t respond today. so we will see what happens tomorrow.
There is great advise here, I am praying for your Peace. I am sorry I just now found this…(((HUGS)))
Praying that God’s peace will surround you!
God Bless!
@Croteau_4_Christ - Amen
bless you sister!
cm
Well, it’s already been said, but that’s part of the reason I homeschool. No one understands as well or cares as much as you do. I have a son who was about two years behind in math for a long time, and another one who didn’t read until he was 8. Both of them are very intelligent, but definitely were on a different time schedule than the average. In school, they would have been labeled and medicated, I’m quite sure. Thankfully, I love teaching, so I am doubly blessed. I realize homeschooling doesn’t work for everyone, and if you can’t, I pray that things will work out with the school. ((hugs!)) I’ll pray for you.
Lamb and I remembered the episodes this evening together. We are praying for you and Barry and that HaShem’s wisdom will guide you both.
It may be because he was a premie. It may be that he has so much to say, and needs to put it down so fast before someone makes him forget what he is supposed to say. I also had a problem writing carefully enough, and was encouraged to take a little more time to print neatly. As the baby of the family, and knowing I was intelligent, I didn’t like it. But I think I wrote sloppy because I had a lot to say, and needed to compete with eight siblings for attention. It gradually came, and I do write clear enough now. But it took slowing down and being more careful, and being encouraged that I was able to do so.
have you thought of homeschooling?
? i can help ya!
@A_Godly_Homemaker - I can not legally homeschool in the state of Pa
Oh man, BTDT and in CA it is still legal to home school, but they are trying to shut that down, or regulate it so heavily most Parents would not be able to do it. If you can not legally home school, what about Independent Study? This is where you are given a teaching plan from the school district and most likely monthly meetings with an assigned teacher. There is a site and maybe you already checked this out, Speaks of Home Education.
http://www.pde.state.pa.us/home_education/cwp/view.asp?a=148&Q=56276&home_educationNav=%7C606%7C#HE
My Son Jesse I saw from an early age has problems with expressive language skills that effect his writing, sign (ASL as I am Deaf), and social expressions. Other things made it hard for him to do timed test, work in a normal noise (or noisy) environment, easily distracted, etc. etc. He is smart, (both of my boys are). I ended up pulling them out of school because of bullying, and teachers unable to cope. After 2 1/2 years, my boys wanted to try going back.
We found a safe High School that was not a throat cutting competition (neither of them thrive in places). My oldest was finally able to take off and maintains a 3.85 GPA. My youngest however, regularly failed. Once again, meetings, meetings, meetings. Until in the tenth grade, a School Counselor, She made Jesse a special case and asked me questions and basically confirmed her own thoughts on why he had so much trouble. FINALLY the school district, plus the backings of his doctor, and others, acknowledge there was a problem bad enough to warrant special education. Oh, and they said, he was not simply “just not doing his work” This happened this school year, he is in his 11th year of school.
I hate to think where he be if he did not come from a home that values education, and respect for the child (along with all kinds of love too!). They were expecting my kids to be way behind, and found instead, they were way ahead!
I am praying for you, and know as I am sure you do now, you are NOT alone.
Loving Prayers and Hugs from a fellow sister in the Lord JesusNancy Louise
@Kristenmomof3 - you can legally homeschool in all 50 states! one of my best friends has for yrs. the requirements are a little tougher than in florida or texas but it is still quite do-able and legal. check out hslda.org to learn what the requirements are
@A_Godly_Homemaker - I do not meet the legal requirement in Pa to homeschool. I can not legally homeschool in Pa. I know the laws. I do not meet them.
Hi there! You are not alone. I don’t know your full story yet, but my 16 year old son was put on Ritalin in grade 3 by a psychologist. He did some tests and the result was that Jason has ADD. Wrong!
After a month, I took him off the Ritalin as my sparly, bubbly boy disappeared and I had a walking Zombie in his place. Everything the psychologist said made sense, however he was wrong! A professor from a university came to meet some parents at our church and she did extensive tests on a group of children. My son has a depth-perception problem and he sometimes sees double. This causes his one eye to “jump” and so he’ll be reading and then skip halfway through the line to the next line and merrily carry on, none the wiser.
He has not failed a year and is going to grade 10 this year, praise the Lord! It hasn’t been easy and becomes overwhelming at times, but I know that we have not been given anything that we cannot handle.
Be strong and of good courage! I love your site, by the way just as I love Israel.
@Gotta_tell_somebody - thank you
(((((HUGS))))) I have one child left in school and he is about to graduation this spring.Having gone through this kind of stuff 3 times…. I have always found that dressing in formal business wear and making a husband and wife appearance at the school does wonders! (Ohio schools)
Teachers and principles are used to mad moms dressed in jeans throwing a fit in their office or over the phone but when you show up dress like you know what you are doing and carry a list of times and conversations and asking to have a meeting with the Superintendent and School Liaison… that tends to wake things up! And I don’t make appointments for those visits either – that is your right as a parent.
Feel free to sit on on any of your child’s classes that is also your right you have to go through the office to do so but they have to let you in.
If you feel the school is mistreating your child feel free to call Child Services and the local State Health Dept. I called the school principle and threatened to do this because my daughter’s 2nd grade teacher had a dead turtle in her room who had died from improper care and she wanted the kids watch it decompose for science class.I also threatened to call the local newspaper too!
Principle was so nice- she called the teacher down to the phone and let me tell her all my plans myself and said she would help me in away I needed!
Don’t just get mad- do something about it! You will feel soo much better! And pray for G-d’s help- in great detail- if it is a real injustice going on there- He will make it right one way or another! Praying for you, sister!
You’ve had a lot of good replies on this because we are parents too- feel free to talk some of the other parents that might be will to join you with this. Make sure your voices are loud and clear.
Dear Sister Kristen,
I can feel your anger believe me. I too have a son who has some issues. Not so much but a few. One being he can’t keep focused and second he does not write neatly to their standard. He’s been like this all the time. Fact is when I teach him over the summers his self confidence lifts and he responds really well to my teaching. For some reason in the school environment he doesn’t do well with those 2 issues. I can’t pin point the true reason for this but I can say that I am in no way ready for a homeschool full time situation as he would love to happen. Wouldn’t most kids LOL!
So I can understand. I get all kinds of notes and comments but unfortunately it’s just how it is and no matter what I do he just doesn’t seem to change much. Funny thing is that they say he’s very smart. That’s not the issue. It’s more behavior issue based.
I will pray for you and your child that you can overcome this obsticle.
God Bless!