January 22, 2009
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Bras and little girls….
Parents, I have a question for you. Well, actually parents of girls who are now wearing bras are who I have the question for. The question is …. How did you get your girls to wear bras? Did you just buy them and say wear this? Did you explain to them why they are supposed to wear it? What did you do?
My daughter is at the age where she is just starting with a little girl bra. She does not like the idea of bras and dislikes wearing them.
How did you get your girls to wear bras?
Comments (33)
My mom had a hard time with me too. She finally just told me, “Honey, you have to wear one. I’m sorry, but you’re floppy.” That got me wearing them. LOL!!
I was the dork who thought it was cool. lol. It didn’t take much. One day with it on, and my bra became my security blanket. lol
I don’t have children so I can’t really help but I remember when I was given my first bra (my 10th birthday) and I was really embarrassed about it at first but eventually thought it was “cool” after learning a couple of my friends were wearing them too. Good luck!
@Papillon_Mom - LOL….I didn’t want to wear one either…Grandma told me If I didn’t wear one that my boobs would hang down to my knees. IF you would see grandma when she takes her bra off….well, that got me wearing a bra….then later I found out my boobs will probably look like that when I am 65 bra or no bra.
my niece just sorta worked her way in. There was a point when it was just kinda necessary and it happened. I think they took her out bra shopping after she got used to the idea… but, i wasn’t there for that one.
@LostInTheLyrics - oh…so you were the easy child.
@cre13 - yeah, it probably wont be a problem when more girls start wearing them…the problem is that she is developing pretty early…poor girl was born to the “big boob family” so she is probably doomed to size D- DD boobs by the time she is 20.
@Kristenmomof3 - I’m the only one
@Kristenmomof3 - yeah that was (is?) my problem, too.
@cre13 - yep, people who don’t have them want them…people who have them know the problems it can cause with clothes at times.
Shouldn’t it be rather her choice to wear it or not?
My oldest girl is only 4 so I don’t need to “worry” for another about 8 years. I don’t remember at all that my own mother telling me I need bras! It is just there. I personally don’t see the point of getting ‘training’ bras until it is oblivious that she need something to keep her buds from flopping around (which will attract some undesirable teasing). If it is oblivious then certainly she needs at least size A cup already! I’m sure there’s some girls who is all for being ‘grown up’ and snatch up anything that they are allowed to use. If you think your girl need to start wearing bra, then think bikini tops- more colorful and “normal” looking. Tanker t-shirt with build-in bra? Just an idea…
@mjh905 - thanks for the great ideas
@Kristenmomof3 - problems with clothes? LOL…. I’m sportin’ DDD’s (no lie) and have problems finding pretty bras that aren’t $70 a piece and I have serious back pain. I’m also susceptible to osteoporosis. Problems with clothes are the least of my worries! But yes, having big boobs is no fun. My hubby likes them and that’s great but he doesn’t have to carry around all that weight everyday all day.
@cre13 - My hubby likes them too
Pretty bras…what are they…I haven’t had a pretty bra in years….oh and dont forget the need for wide straps so your shoulders dont get cut in two
@Kristenmomof3 - lol exactly! I’ve found Lane Bryant and Torrid to be my favorite places to buy bras. And they really are pretty!
@cre13 - The Lane Bryant we had in our area closed. Had never heard of Torrid…so I googled them and looked for nearby stores…none in this area
I will message you about this.
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@Kristenmomof3 - you can order online, that’s what I do. Their prices are excellent and the quality is really nice. You can do the same with Lane Bryant but they are a little pricier.
I kind of transitioned into wearing bras … My mom use to have me wear vests under my clothing and then when I got to that age she just bought me bras and I would wear either. I remember when I started wearing bras all the time was when a friend told me that I was “showing” and I became conscious of the fact that bras were the way to go …
I say give her time to get accustom to the idea …
I didn’t really have a problem with my daughter wearing a bra. She wanted one at 9 years of age (I still tease her about that) and didn’t start developing until she was 11.
i think shes probably just afraid of growing up to fast
but thats rare lol
you defaintly shouldnt force it on her though or other wise(like my little sister)
shell start to regret having breasts
so maybe you should find out her reason for disliking it and go from there=]
I 2nd the tankini/bikini tops. That’s actually what I prefer myself since I don’t need support.
I’ve also bought my daughter some undershirts and she is ok with those… she’s not really crazy about them but that way if she bends over you can’t see everything.
@Lamb@revelife - Yeah, I think I will try that
could you start with a “shelf tank”? the kind of tank top that has a small shelf area for your boobs.
heh oh sorry I see other people already said that
*scratches head* Well, I’m not a mum, but I think my mum just bought me a training bra at some point and told me I should get used to wearing one. That was awkward. And it didn’t work too well — I wore it for awhile, but thought it was both uncomfortable and unnecessary. Aaand so I still don’t wear one; I wear undershirts/tank tops with the shelf bras in them (that’s what you call them, right?).
How old is your girl?
I recently had my daughter start wearing the training bra. I took her on a special shopping trip, just me and her, and I explained to her what she was getting, and why. I also spoke to her about some body changes (hormones and feelings) and modesty. I helped her to understand that it was a part of growing up, and that it was a positive thing. She enjoyed picking out her own bras, and felt good about herself while doing it. I didn’t want her to feel emarassed by it, or ashamed. I wanted her to know that it was a natural part of growing up to be a young lady. I think it helped that we had a special evening out, just me and her.
I agree with others’ comments that you don’t want to force her to wear the bra, esp if she’s not “showing” yet. I noticed my daughter (at age 10) was starting to form the ever so slightest bumps, and her hips were starting to show up. That’s why I decided she was ready. Better off to start early, before they actually need it. That way they get used to the idea, and it’s still seen as a fun option, instead of a command or a must.
My 8 yr old has been begging for one for about 2 years. Every time we went to Walmart I heard about it. We finally got her some for her bday and now she doesnt like to wear them!
For my daughter we started with a bra from Target that mimics a tank top but is a bra. No hooks, no adjustable straps, no nothing. It is the only thing she will wear when not wearing a tank top. It costs about $5. I bought some prettier ones, some from Limited Too-they are all in the drawer-the far back of the drawer. Hope this helps.
My daughter – who is 12 – asked me if I would buy her one, although she doesn’t actually NEED one yet ….but “all” the girls in her class wore one and oh my goodness if she didn’t!!!!
@Made2sing4Jesus - she will be 8 in April….poor girl is already getting boobs.
I was dying to wear one by the time my mom finally got around to getting it. And my daughter pestered me for one, too, so I can’t really relate to having a reluctant bra-wearer! To me, it’s a sign of growing up, and usually that is most welcome at that age!
Sports bras are wonderful for starters–no hooks or anything. And cute ones are fun, too.