I’m definitely praying for you. Try not to be intimidated b/c afterall, you are the mother. You know your child better than they do. Try also to remember that they have a lot at stake in this too. It makes them look bad if he fails, so they want to do all they can to help bring him up to speed. So, that should be encouraging. They want to work with you, not against you b/c hopefully they understand that it’s mutually beneficial for all concerned.  

I would take notes at every meeting. Keep all documents (make copies if they don’t provide them for you). Ask to see his personal records (see what has been documented thus far. though they will probably will share part of this with you if they haven’t already). I would write down some questions you might have and bring them to the meetings. Record his progress, as well as concerns. Hopefully, they understand how intimidating and frustrating it can be for parents, and prayerfully I ask that they go out of their way to reassure you and alleviate any concerns you might have.

Just think of the meeting as their way of making sure that you both are on the same page and that you also have some reassurance/accountability from them regarding what will be done in school to help your child.  They are basically protecting themselves by having to have this all documented and discussed. If anything, they are the ones who are having to prove themselves to you; so, I wouldn’t be surprised if they were intimidated and a little worried themselves.  Just remember, you are in control; you can even talk to the principal about changing teachers if you wanted to. I’ve never done that, but sometimes a different teacher makes all the difference. I did take my daughter out of german last year when the woman was harrassing/screaming (extreme spiritual warfare is all we can gather) at her/threatening to fail her even though my daughter had documented proof that she had an A in the class (my daughter was her finest pupil up until the woman snapped/has never been a problem with any teacher/had skipped an entire year of german/loved the class but came home crying every single day). The head of foreign language tried to intimidate me that I couldn’t remove my daughter from the class, but I knew my rights as a parent. My daughter had already dropped her beginning french elective b/c it was the same teacher. After seeing how the head of foreign language refused to believe my daughter and instead implied that the situation was related to her being the product of a single parent home (the dean and principal [who was a Christian ]took our side by the way, b/c they knew her character and spotless reputation. I mean just imagine if it had been a kid with a reputation; it’s still an outrage for a staff member to immediately presume guilt), I knew that if she had stayed in that class there would have been no guarantee that the teacher would have been held accountable or stop the harrassing behaviors.

Sorry for the tangent. So in conclusion, remember you’re the parent. You can leave a meeting if you feel uncomfortable.