Disclaimer: This post is not written about/at any individual person but more toward a mindset I have been noticing. Now on to the post….

I don’t really know if this is an universally global thing but sometimes it seems like people have a mold that you are supposed to fit in. Not only fit in but a mold that someone else decided defines as the boundaries you can not cross in your life. If you do all Hell breaks loose.

This is not talking about a parent child things but more to the friend end of the relationship spectrum.

It becomes like a battlefield…. You are told to “Dare to be Yourself” and “Your Inner Self is Beautiful” but then find yourself on a landmine being ripped to pieces because your feelings on as little of one subject remains different than the friend that you had otherwise had a good relationship with.

Sometimes it is like we run into people who nitpicks at our current beliefs like its a friendship breaker when before that we always had gotten along.

Sometimes its the “big things”

Pro-life or Pro-choice
Straight or LGBT
BSDM or “Vanilla”
Religious leanings and beliefs
Political Party or Thoughts
etc

or it is about “little things”

Shortness of Skirts or Shorts
Level of Exposed Cleavage
If you choose to cover your head or not.
Length of hair
Piercings or tattoos
etc.

And God forbid if your view changes on any subject. For example if you go from “Pro-choice” to “Pro-life”.  It won’t matter if you agree on everything else…it seems as this one change totally changes who you are. When it changes only one aspect of who you are. In this situation you are basically the same person in a diffrent outer package.

What makes it that we have these “molds” for people? What makes it that we are so unforgiving if people change their beliefs on a subject from time to time or don’t fit into the “mold” that we would have thought for them?

I am not naive enough to not understand that some of it comes from a religious belief line of thought  and anyone not within that line of thought could possible be sinning. But what ever happened to the friendship that was shared when it came to stuff you saw eye to eye on. No matter how well meaning your disagreement may mean the fact remains that by forcing someone in a mold you may loose that person for ever. Not because they were sinners or evil but because they were human and were making chioces with thier own judgement and decision making process.

I am not saying that your beliefs don’t matter only that if you wish a friend to respect your beliefs that differ maybe you need to respect theirs and focus on the things that made them your friend in the first place.

The differences make the world interesting. Without them we would do best to talk with ourselves because we already know the answer.

That’s just my two cents.

Thoughts?