live and let live. if people are happy go for it. i can imagine myself truly loving more than one person and making that work, as long as they genuinely felt it was okay adn weren't hurt by sharing me.
p.s. I LOVE anita blake!
@jenessa1889 - I know. I love the whole Anita Blake series. It is so good.
as long as it's consensual, i'm all for it.
I dont see myself in that situation, but I am a firm believer in "to each thier own". we are all entitled to live a happy life!
Nice in theory but I don't know anyone in practice for whom it's worked out long-term. (I do know quite a few folks who tried it in the short term). Humans tend to be jealous & possessive of their mates. Mates of whom they are not possessive tend to not be mates that they truly consider long-term partners. I know several pairings where the first relationship dropped off and was replaced by the second relationship, the poly aspect provided the opportunity and a less-painful transition (for the partners who stayed, obviously). If you want to find more literature that idealises polyamory, read Heinlein. I don't know of any that talks about poly without idealising it - jealousy and the resultant emotions are rather embarrassing for most folks.
Not for me. I have enough to do with one husband.
I feel like if all people involved are happy with the arrangement then let them go for it. I couldn't see sharing my husband with other women and I know he couldn't see sharing me with other men, but if you like it then by all means go for it.
One of the objections to polygamous relationships is that it is too difficult to legislate for in terms of survivor's rights, etc. I was just thinking about this, in terms of health insurance. If an employee in a polygamous marital relationship wants to insure multiple spouses through his employer provided health insurance, why couldn't he simply be charged "per family"? Meaning, each spouse and the children resulting from that union would be a new family on the policy, paying the full family price for insurance.
In other words: Why do we make things unnecessarily complicated? If you have one spouse, your spouse has certain survivor's rights. If you have two spouses, they would be split equally between the two. Or ten.
It is no one's business what consenting adults do in their bedrooms when no coercion, threat, or danger is involved. All of the objections to and legislation against personal liberties like reproductive rights and same sex marriage are distractions.
@Oh! - I was going to comment, but this is basically what I would have said, so ditto. :)
I have brought up the idea of having a Polyamory relationship with my husband where we would both share a girlfriend but I don't think I could actually go through with it. I'm too jealous of a person.
I have no problem with it. What consenting adults do is none of my business, which is also why I have no problem with same-sex or consensual incest even. Who gives a crap?
As long as everyone involved is completely zen with it and a consenting adult, I see no problem with it.
I disagree with it but only because I've read so many stories of unhappy familys, jealousy, mental abuse, etc. Strangely, I'm not against gay marriage. However, this marrying underaged kids in certain Morman communities is just wrong and laws need to be followed. It's hard not to judge people. I've got to continue on working on that.
i actually really like the idea of it in general, even for myself. and i especially think people should be allowed to choose their mates without input from society as a whole. my brother (gay) complains about the debate on gay marriage and how sick of it he is, and says "next they're going to want to legalize polygamy" as though that's a bad thing, and one of the problems i have with the outward support of gay marriage is that the backlash is "well what about polygamy" and supporters say back "no, no, we're not asking for THAT, that's too far" and i say "why?" what consensual adults do with their lives are their business. if you do not want rights for everyone, you don't want equal rights.
Not something that personally appeals to me, but it's also none of my business. As an institution, I do not feel marriage is appropriate outside of religion. I really don't care who or how people fuck, so long as it's consensual.
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live and let live. if people are happy go for it. i can imagine myself truly loving more than one person and making that work, as long as they genuinely felt it was okay adn weren't hurt by sharing me.
p.s. I LOVE anita blake!
@jenessa1889 - I know. I love the whole Anita Blake series. It is so good.
as long as it's consensual, i'm all for it.
I dont see myself in that situation, but I am a firm believer in "to each thier own". we are all entitled to live a happy life!
Nice in theory but I don't know anyone in practice for whom it's worked out long-term. (I do know quite a few folks who tried it in the short term). Humans tend to be jealous & possessive of their mates. Mates of whom they are not possessive tend to not be mates that they truly consider long-term partners. I know several pairings where the first relationship dropped off and was replaced by the second relationship, the poly aspect provided the opportunity and a less-painful transition (for the partners who stayed, obviously). If you want to find more literature that idealises polyamory, read Heinlein. I don't know of any that talks about poly without idealising it - jealousy and the resultant emotions are rather embarrassing for most folks.
Not for me. I have enough to do with one husband.
I feel like if all people involved are happy with the arrangement then let them go for it. I couldn't see sharing my husband with other women and I know he couldn't see sharing me with other men, but if you like it then by all means go for it.
One of the objections to polygamous relationships is that it is too difficult to legislate for in terms of survivor's rights, etc. I was just thinking about this, in terms of health insurance. If an employee in a polygamous marital relationship wants to insure multiple spouses through his employer provided health insurance, why couldn't he simply be charged "per family"? Meaning, each spouse and the children resulting from that union would be a new family on the policy, paying the full family price for insurance.
In other words: Why do we make things unnecessarily complicated? If you have one spouse, your spouse has certain survivor's rights. If you have two spouses, they would be split equally between the two. Or ten.
It is no one's business what consenting adults do in their bedrooms when no coercion, threat, or danger is involved. All of the objections to and legislation against personal liberties like reproductive rights and same sex marriage are distractions.
@Oh! - I was going to comment, but this is basically what I would have said, so ditto. :)
I have brought up the idea of having a Polyamory relationship with my husband where we would both share a girlfriend but I don't think I could actually go through with it. I'm too jealous of a person.
I have no problem with it. What consenting adults do is none of my business, which is also why I have no problem with same-sex or consensual incest even. Who gives a crap?
As long as everyone involved is completely zen with it and a consenting adult, I see no problem with it.
I disagree with it but only because I've read so many stories of unhappy familys, jealousy, mental abuse, etc. Strangely, I'm not against gay marriage. However, this marrying underaged kids in certain Morman communities is just wrong and laws need to be followed. It's hard not to judge people.
I've got to continue on working on that.
i actually really like the idea of it in general, even for myself.
and i especially think people should be allowed to choose their mates without input from society as a whole.
my brother (gay) complains about the debate on gay marriage and how sick of it he is, and says "next they're going to want to legalize polygamy" as though that's a bad thing, and one of the problems i have with the outward support of gay marriage is that the backlash is "well what about polygamy" and supporters say back "no, no, we're not asking for THAT, that's too far" and i say "why?"
what consensual adults do with their lives are their business.
if you do not want rights for everyone, you don't want equal rights.
Not something that personally appeals to me, but it's also none of my business. As an institution, I do not feel marriage is appropriate outside of religion. I really don't care who or how people fuck, so long as it's consensual.
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